What Does an Orgasm Feel Like? The Inside Story

Ever played hide and seek with the big O?

Don’t know if you ever met?

Wondering what does an orgasm feel like

Well, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. How an orgasm feels can depend on your gender, physical sensations, emotions, and individual preferences. 

Let’s explore a few common types of orgasms and remove the veil from sensations that you may experience during climax.

Ready to dive into the world of sweet, sweet O’s?

Just remember

Sex isn't all about orgasms. You may not always orgasm during solo sex or through partnered and penetrative sex, and that is a-okay.

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What Does an Orgasm Feel Like for a Woman? 

Let's be clear

Orgasms vary from person to person. 

For one woman, the big O may feel like an explosion of fireworks throughout her entire body; for another, the experience may be like climbing a tall mountain with a view to die for.  

Others describe it as an ocean of waves that crash into you or a toe-curling, electric surge of pleasure that leaves you breathless. 

Not to mention that you can experience different kinds of orgasms. From penetrative and oral sex to genital stimulation, orgasms can range from mild to intense sexual pleasure. 

One thing they all have in common? 

The sexual response cycle has four stages: 

  • Excitement: Erotic tension builds up, often through sexual stimulation like foreplay.
  • Plateau: Pleasurable sensations intensify and sexual tension increases.
  • Orgasm: The built-up sexual tension is released with a burst of intense pleasure. Several hormones are released at this point.
  • Resolution: You experience a peaceful "afterglow," and sexual feelings gradually subside. 

Still not sure whether you’ve had one? 

Don’t worry. There are a few common signs to help recognize a female orgasm.

Physiologically, when you're about to orgasm, your pelvic muscles contract involuntarily from sexual arousal. It's like a sneeze that you can't stop once it begins. These contractions happen along the vaginal wall and often come with pleasurable sensations.

Neurologically, right before orgasm, there's a shift from feeling aroused to a peri-orgasmic state, meaning very close to orgasm. You might feel like your mind is racing, breathe rapidly, or even lose touch with reality momentarily before experiencing intense pleasure.

Afterward, you should feel a sense of resolution, like something has been completed. This is a clear sign that you've had a true orgasm.


Fun fact: Women (and about 7-10% of men) can experience multiple orgasms. This means women can orgasm, remain aroused, and reach climax again. (Yas queens!) 

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What Does an Orgasm Feel Like for a Man? 

When it comes to the big O, men and women experience surprisingly similar brain reactions. Scientists have a hard time distinguishing between them just by looking at muscle contractions. 

Men and women both go through the same four stages of sexual response: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. The pelvic muscles get in on the action with contractions, and the buildup of nerve activity leads to the grand finale.

So, what's the difference?

Men tend to fire up their desire engines more swiftly, a characteristic associated with the male orgasm.


Men produce higher levels of testosterone, a sex hormone that heavily increases their state of sexual arousal. Picture it like a rapid surge of pleasure. 

And then there's the ejaculation factor. While female ejaculation is less common, men typically release semen during orgasm. It's all tied to a man’s sexual function. 

In a nutshell: Male and female orgasms share similar neural and physical responses, but men often take the express lane and ejaculate from sexual stimulation. 

Did you know? Men experience orgasms more often than women when they engage in sexual intercourse. This is also known as the orgasm gap. 

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9 Most Common Types of Orgasms

Sexual activity involving different parts of your body can spark different reactions. Here are nine of the most common kinds of orgasms:

  • Vaginal: A vaginal orgasm involves the G-spot, found inside the vagina, but not all women experience it. A vaginal orgasm typically occurs during vaginal penetration, lasts longer, and feels like a whole-body climax.
  • Clitoral: The most common female orgasm is caused by clitoral stimulation. A clitoral orgasm is characterized by its sharp and intense yet short-lived burst of sensation. 

  • Blended: A blended orgasm is achieved through vaginal stimulation and clitoral stimulation at the same time. A blended orgasm can cause your entire body to tremble. (Sign me up!) 

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  • Erogenous: Areas like the ears, nipples, neck, elbows, and knees are full of nerve endings, making them sensitive to touch. This orgasm can lead to a pleasurable release through your entire body. 

  • A-Spot: The A-spot, or deep spot, is another way to experience vaginal orgasms that are less known, possibly because it’s more difficult to reach. It’s found between the vaginal wall and cervix. When stimulated through vaginal penetration, it can cause excess lubrication and lead to a deep orgasm felt in the pelvic floor muscles. 
  • Coregasm: This kind of orgasm can occur during exercise and is similar to the feeling of a "runner's high." It can happen when your clitoris and vaginal opening are stimulated through your workout clothes.  
  • Ejaculatory: An ejaculatory orgasm is the most common kind of male orgasm. You stimulate the nerve endings in your genital area and experience orgasm while ejaculating.
  • Prostate: The P-Spot, also known as the prostate gland, is a small gland near your bladder. Some men find that applying pressure to the prostate, typically through the anus, can bring them intense pleasure. This sexual activity can lead to orgasm without needing to stimulate the penis.
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Frequently Asked Questions About Orgasms

Here are the answers to some more questions about the elusive big O: 

1. What Benefits Can an Orgasm Provide?

Orgasms release dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin, making you feel like you’re on top of the world. Here are more benefits orgasms offer:

  • Lower blood pressure
  • Higher self-esteem leading to improved mental health 
  • Improve gut health (better digestion, decrease in bloating, & improve negative effects of anxiety and depression) 
  • Improved sleep
  • Help relieve pain and menstrual cramps 
  • Lowering cardiovascular risk 

2. What Can You Do to Achieve a Better Orgasm?

If you want to amp up your orgasms, these tips can help:

  • Indulge in solo play: You can explore the clitoris using your hands or a sex toy, which offers unique sensations. These toys work well for solo or partnered play. 

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  • Try Kegel exercises: Kegel exercises can make your vagina and pelvic floor stronger, enhancing sensation during sex. To do them, contract the same muscles you use to hold in urine, then relax. Repeat this several times daily for a few minutes.
  • Stay hydrated: Dehydration can make your muscles struggle to contract properly, leading to discomfort.
  • Ensure you feel comfortable with your partner: When you feel comfortable with your partner and confident that they won't judge your expressions during sexual intercourse, reaching orgasm (or multiple orgasms) can be much easier.
  • Practice “edging”: Try a technique called "edging," where you or your partner stimulates you almost to the point of orgasm and then pauses or slows down. Repeating this process can lead to a more intense orgasm.
  • Stay in the moment: Be present, focus on what feels good, and communicate your desires for a better sex life. 

Psst… remember, you can have a deeply satisfying sexual experience and sex life without having an orgasm. So, it’s no biggie if it doesn’t happen. 

3. Can All Women Have an Orgasm?

Some women can't have an orgasm due to anorgasmia.

They may have lifelong anorgasmia, meaning they’ve never experienced orgasm. 

While others have acquired anorgasmia, meaning they have lost their ability to have one. 

There are various reasons someone may experience acquired anorgasmia, including:

  • Hormonal birth control
  • Health conditions 
  • Aging
  • Psychological factors, such as struggling with mental health 

Often, it's a combination of these factors. 

But if you have anorgasmia, it doesn't necessarily mean you will never be able to achieve orgasm (again).

Treatment for anorgasmia depends on what's causing the issue. There are different options for treatment, like lifestyle changes, (sex) therapy, or using medication.

This form of sexual dysfunction can also affect men. However, it’s less common. 

Ready to Experience Orgasmic Bliss?

Orgasms come in various flavors, much like a box of chocolates. They offer everything from explosive bursts of sexual pleasure to serene afterglows.

For truly earth-shattering orgasms, embrace self-exploration, use sex toys, and don't forget the magic of lube!

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