What can I use instead of lube?
A common question that many people, who regularly use personal lubricants, have.
If you are looking for a reliable alternative to a store-bought personal lubricant that you can readily concoct with kitchen essentials, you are in the right place.
In this post, I’ll explain what a homemade lube is and how to use natural ingredients to DIY lube. I’ll also tell you about a fantastic natural personal lube option that is better than a homemade one.
Here’s what I’ll cover:
- What is a Homemade Lube?
- 7 Best Homemade Lubes To Use
- DIY Lube: Ingredients to Avoid
- Easy Homemade Lube Recipes
- What is the Best Natural Lubricant?
- Choose a Reliable Natural Lube
Let’s get started.
As the name suggests, a homemade lube is a lubricant that you do-it-yourself with some staples available around the house.
It could be natural oils (like coconut, avocado oil, olive oil or jojoba oil), cocoa butter, shea butter, or even cannabis oil.
You can mix these and other ingredients with wax (like beeswax) and essential oil to make a gel-like substance that improves slipperiness during sex. (More about some great DIY personal lubricant recipes later.)
In essence, a homemade lube is no different from a store-bought personal lubricant. Both have the same purpose - to reduce friction and discomfort so that your sexual experience is smoother.
Whether you enjoy sexual play solo, with a partner, or with adult toys, a personal lubricant is always a good nightstand companion.
However, it is essential to note that finding (or, in this case, making) a lube that works well for you and your partner is an intimate exercise. You or your partner may be allergic to some ingredients - even if they are organic or natural.
Few ingredients also pose a risk of infection, such as bacterial vaginosis or yeast infections. Moreover, some personal lubes are tailor-made for certain types of sexual acts, like anal sex. Others cater to specific skin types (sensitive skin).
Making something at home that works exactly for your needs may need trial and error. Therefore, you must research all ingredients before using them to make a lube at home.
While I prefer buying a natural personal lubricant that is body-safe, you can use one of the following household items as a natural substitute when you run out of your favorite store-bought lube.
Many household staples used for cooking or as a moisturizer (like olive oil) can be used as an alternative personal lube.
Surprised? I was too.
Most of the ingredients listed below are usually safe to use in the vagina and anus. However, you must do a patch test for any allergic reactions before using them on your genitals.
Important note: All the oils mentioned below are NOT compatible with condoms.
Here are 7 safe household ingredients that you may want to try as an alternative to your personal lube:
1. Virgin Coconut Oil
Virgin oil made from coconut is a natural and edible product known to provide excellent hydration and improve skin elasticity. It is also a popular option for relieving vaginal dryness and as an oil for massage.
The thick consistency of the virgin coconut oil enables it to stay longer on the skin, making penetration smoother. Hence, it works as a good anal lubricant.
High-quality, cold-pressed oil made from coconut is also compatible with silicone-based sex toys like butt-plugs, dildos, and vibrators.
However, if you plan to use latex condoms and dental dams or latex-based sex toys, this coconut oil lubricant recipe is not for you.
Oils tend to weaken latex material, making condoms susceptible to breakage. It also damages latex sex toys.
Another limitation: In some people, coconut oil may cause allergic reactions and can cause clogged pores, bumps, and irritation to the skin.
2. Sweet Almond Oil
Usually used as a moisturizer for dryness and sensitive skin, oil made from sweet almonds is safe to eat. So, it’s a good option for oral sex. This oil can also be used to give a sensual massage.
What’s more? It stays longer and smells great too. Since you don’t have to reapply it too often, it makes an excellent anal lube alternative.
However, like any oil, it cannot be used with a latex condom. All oils and an oil based lube cause condoms to break. So, reserve using sweet almond oil for a monogamous relationship where you don’t have to worry about STIs.
Also, with no condom involved, you need to be sure that pregnancy is not a concern.
Another limitation: If you have a nut allergy, it may not be a good idea to use this oil topically as it could cause an allergic reaction.
3. Aloe Vera
The Aloe vera plant is medicinal and has moisturizing, soothing, and cooling properties.
Often listed as an ingredient in many store-bought lubricants, aloe vera in the gel form is a gentle lube for your vagina and anus. Aloe is also a natural treatment for vaginal dryness.
Aloe is water based, and therefore, aloe vera gel is compatible with all condoms - including latex and polyurethane condoms - and adult sex toys.
Just remember to buy pure, organic aloe vera gel from a reputed brand. It should be alcohol and paraben free. Alternatively, you can harvest your home-grown aloe plant for its gel.
Nagaimo or Chinese yam is an exotic ingredient and may not feature in your pantry. But it could add some excitement to your homemade lube experiment.
When cooked, Nagaimo gets a super slippery, slimy texture, which provides excellent lubrication.
However, it needs to be mixed with a carrier oil like coconut or almond oil to make a usable concoction. And as you know by now, oil and condoms don’t work well together.
5. Olive Oil
Olive oil is a favorite in any kitchen. Experts consider this to be a “healthy fat” because it contains monounsaturated fatty acids (MUFAs).
Olive oil is also great in the bedroom! Like other natural oils, this healthy oil adds moisture and reduces friction. Unfortunately, your skin will not absorb olive oil, so wash it off right after intercourse.
Another limitation: You should also avoid a latex condom when you apply olive oil as a lube.
6. Avocado Oil
If you thought the Avocado Cappuccino phase was exciting, wait until you use avocado oil in the bedroom.
It is smooth and lasts longer than you expect. Plus, avocado oil has no taste or smell, making it handy for a bit of oral playtime.
Another limitation: It is not as effective as sweet almond and coconut oils, but it will work when you need it.
7. Shea Butter
This option needs a bit of work to make it safe to use as a lube. Shea butter is in the same category as wax. It will coat the surface of the vagina. This coating will stop it from breathing and performing properly.
But if times are desperate, and shea butter is all you have, there is a trick to properly use it as a lube.
You need to make sure it melts completely. You can melt the shea butter by using the heat of your hands. Rub it between your palms before placing it on a sex toy or a penis.
Shea butter has a thick consistency and lasts longer, so you can use it as a natural anal lube.
Many household ingredients may seem like great lube alternatives but are harmful to your vagina and anus health.
Here's the uncensored list of items to avoid when using homemade lube:
- Baby oil (or anything with mineral oil) - can increase your chances of getting bacterial vaginosis
- Petroleum jelly (like Vaseline) - not safe with condoms, can cause bacterial vaginosis
- Glycerin - may increase transmission of genital herpes
- Refined oils (vegetable oil) - treated with chemicals, causes a buildup in the vagina, can increase the risk of yeast related infection
- Spit - while this natural lubrication may seem harmless, saliva can spread gonorrhea
- Chocolate, shortening, cream - anything that has sugar or dairy in it as it can cause yeast infections
- Honey - as delicious as it sounds, the sugar content will make a home for loads of bacteria to grow
- Egg whites - while some believe using egg whites work great, gynecologists doctors don’t recommend using it in the vagina. The safety of using egg whites is unknown
- Lotion or Soap - some lotions and soaps contain parabens and propylene glycols (preservatives and perfume). These can cause swelling and general irritation in your genitals
- Sugar - anything that contains sugar will cause a yeast infection. Peanut butter and Nutella is definitely off the list for a fun time in the bedroom
- Vitamin E cream - Some time ago, Khloe Kardashian claimed that she uses Vitamin E cream to “strengthen the tissue” on her vagina. Experts have since then confirmed that this is not true!
Note: You may find cocoa butter listed in many store-bought lubricants. This is safe. Cocoa butter used in lubricants is a fat that comes from cocoa beans and is not the same as cooking butter or lard.
Ready to get down and dirty?
Here are 4 recipes on how to DIY your homemade personal lubricant:
1. Water based lube recipe
1 cup water
3 teaspoons cornstarch
Grab a saucepan, and mix the cornstarch with water till it dissolves.
Slowly bring the mixture to a boil on a low to medium heat.
Stir frequently for about 30 seconds. Be careful about the consistency - see that it's not too thick. Store in a glass bottle.
That’s it. Your sexual lubricant is ready!
Quick Tip: if you don’t have corn starch in your pantry, you can opt for arrowroot powder to help with the consistency.
2. Oil based homemade lubricant recipe
1/3 cup coconut oil
1 tablespoon beeswax
5 drops of essential oil (Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, Lavender, Peppermint oil or any other fragrance that you love)
Use a double boiler to melt the coconut oil and beeswax. Once melted, add the essential oil (Lavender has calming properties, while YlangYlang works as an aphrodisiac, but you can choose any essential oil)
Next, remove from heat and let it cool completely. At this stage, the mixture will be hard. Refrigerate the mixture if it doesn’t harden under room temperature.
Then whip the mixture till it’s light and fluffy and store it in a glass bottle. When you want to apply the lube, rub it between your palms, and it will become slippery. This love lotion can also act as a DIY massage oil.
Note: If you use fractionated coconut oil, it will remain in liquid form in the fridge. If you are allergic to coconut oil, you can try using MCT oil instead (extracted from coconut oil).
3. Hybrid lube recipe
1/4 cup aloe vera gel
1/4 cup flaxseed oil
4 drops peppermint essential oil
10 drops sensations essential oil
Mix it and use it as soon as possible.
This is a hybrid lube since the recipe uses a water-based lubricant (aloe vera) combined with a plant-based oil (flaxseed oil). This natural lube also smells good.
Note: Sensations essential oil is a mixture of different oils, such as ylang-ylang, jasmine, coriander, bergamot, and geranium.
4. Condom safe lube recipe
1 cup flax seeds
3 cups filtered water
Add the flax seed to the boiling water and cook for ten minutes, or until the flaxseeds are soft.
Then, drain the water and discard the flaxseeds.
Allow the mixture to cool before use.
Even better? This natural lubricant is condom safe, and you can refrigerate it for up to two weeks.
Note: I haven’t mentioned any recipes for weed lube or cannabis lube as it is very risky to make homemade weed lube. If you want a body oil infused with cannabis, see this detailed post on Can You Use Hemp Oil As Lube?
A personal lubricant that uses safe, organic and natural ingredients is perfect for enhancing your erotic pleasures.
What’s even better is if the lube has been tested for compatibility with condoms and adult toys and will not give you a yeast infection.
If you want some options for natural personal lubricants that are body-safe, check out The 6 Best Natural Lubricants for 2020.
Note: Body-safe lubes are free of irritants like parabens, glycerin (usually found in flavored lubes), yeast, and isopropyl alcohol.
You could also opt for Coconu personal lubricants.
The brand is available in two varieties - one using coconut water (condom and sex toy compatible), and the other made from a coconut oil base. Both work great as vaginal as well as anal lube.
Coconu natural lubricants are devoid of alcohol, parabens, petroleum oils (like vaseline), gluten, phylates, glycerin, fragrances, and dyes. They are hypoallergenic and 100% body-safe.
When pleasure and passion are on your mind, would you want to worry about side-effects or an allergic reaction from your sexual lubricant?
I don’t think so!
While some kitchen essentials can also double-up as a sex lube, it is always better to opt for a store-bought lube. These are tested for safety and made from certified natural and organic ingredients.
If you are looking to spice things up in the bedroom with a natural lube, then Coconu’s Water Based lube is your best option. Its silky, sensuous feel will moisturize your sensitive areas while giving you the boost you need during sexy moments.
Plus, you won't find one harmful ingredient in this lube. It is made from 100% natural ingredients and is hypoallergenic. Letting you enjoy every moment without having to worry about any nasty after effects.
With Coconu available online, it was never so easy and convenient to get your hands on a safe and natural personal lubricant.