What can I use instead of lube?
A common question that many people, who regularly use personal lubricants, have.
If you are looking for a reliable alternative to a store-bought personal lubricant that you can readily concoct with kitchen essentials, you are in the right place.
In this post, I’ll explain what a homemade lube is and how to use natural ingredients to DIY lube. I’ll also tell you about a fantastic natural personal lube option that is as good as a homemade one.
Here’s what I’ll cover:
- What is a Homemade Lube?
- What Household Items Can You Use to Make Lube?
- How do You Make Homemade Lubricant?
- DIY Lube: Ingredients to Avoid
- What is the Best Natural Lubricant?
- Go Natural, yet Safe
Let’s get started.
What is a Homemade Lube?
As the name suggests, a homemade lube is a lubricant that you do-it-yourself with some staples available around the house.
It could be natural oils (like coconut, avocado oil, olive oil or jojoba oil), cocoa butter, shea butter, cannabis-infused oil. Or other ingredients mixed with wax (like bees wax) and essential oil to make a gel-like substance that improves slipperiness during sex. (More about some great DIY personal lubricant recipes later.)
In essence, a homemade lube is no different from a store-bought personal lubricant. Both have the same purpose - to reduce friction and discomfort so that your sexual experience is smoother.
Whether you enjoy sexual play solo, with a partner, or with adult toys, a personal lubricant is always a good nightstand companion.
However, it is important to note that finding (or, in this case, making) a lube that works well for you and your partner is an intimate exercise. You or your partner may be allergic to some ingredients - even if they are organic or natural.
Few ingredients also pose a risk of infection, such as bacterial vaginosis or yeast infections. Moreover, some personal lubes are tailor-made for certain types of sexual acts, like anal sex. Others cater to specific skin types (sensitive skin).
Making something at home that works exactly for your needs may need trial and error. Therefore, you must research all ingredients before using them to make a lube at home.
While I prefer buying a natural personal lubricant that is body-safe, you may want to try your hand at cooking up a batch when you run out of your favorite store-bought variety.
What Household Items Can You Use to Make Lube?
Many household staples that you use for cooking or as a moisturizer (like olive oil) can be used as an alternative personal lube.
Surprised? I was too.
Most of the ingredients listed below are usually safe to use in the vagina and anal areas. However, you must do a patch test for any allergic reactions before using them on your genitals.
Important note: All the oils mentioned below are NOT compatible with condoms.
Here are 4 safe household ingredients that you may want to try as an alternative to your personal lube:
1. Virgin Coconut Oil
Virgin oil made from coconut is a natural and edible product, known to provide excellent hydration and improve skin elasticity. It is also a popular option for relieving vaginal dryness and as an oil for massage.
High-quality, cold-pressed oil made from coconut is also compatible with silicone-based sex toys like butt-plugs, dildos, and vibrators.
However, if you are planning to use latex condoms and dental dams or latex-based sex toys, this coconut oil lotion recipe is not for you. Oils tend to weaken latex material, making condoms susceptible to breakage. It also damages latex sex toys.
Another limitation: In some people, coconut oil may cause allergic reactions and can cause clogged pores, bumps, and irritation to the skin.
2. Sweet Almond Oil
Usually used as a moisturizer for dryness and sensitive skin, oil made from sweet almond is safe to eat. So, it’s a good option for oral sex. You can also use it to give a sensual massage.
However, like any oil, it cannot be used with latex condoms. All oils and oil-based lubes cause condoms to break. So, reserve using sweet almond oil for a monogamous relationship where you don’t have to worry about STIs. Also, with no condom involved, you need to be sure that pregnancy is not a concern.
Another limitation: If you have a nut allergy, it may not be a good idea to use this oil topically as it could cause an allergic reaction.
3. Aloe Vera
Aloe vera is a medicinal plant that has moisturizing, soothing, and cooling properties.
Often listed as an ingredient in many store-bought lubricants, aloe vera in the gel form is a gentle lube for your vagina and anus. Aloe is also a natural treatment for vaginal dryness.
Aloe is water-based and therefore, aloe vera gel compatible with all condoms - including latex and polyurethane condoms - and adult sex toys.
Just remember to buy pure, organic aloe vera gel from a reputed brand. It should not have alcohol or parabens. Alternatively, you can harvest your home-grown aloe plant for its gel.
Nagaimo or Chinese yam is an exotic ingredient and may not feature in your pantry. But it could add some excitement to your homemade lube experiment.
When cooked, Nagaimo gets a super slippery, slimy texture, which provides great lubrication.
However, it needs to be mixed with a carrier oil like coconut or almond oil to make a usable concoction. And as you know by now, oil and condoms don’t work well together.
How do You Make Homemade Lubricant?
Ready to get down and dirty?
Here are 4 recipes on how to DIY your homemade personal lubricant:
1. Water-based lube recipe
1 cup water
3 teaspoons cornstarch
In a saucepan, mix the cornstarch with water till it dissolves.
Slowly bring the mixture to a boil on a low to medium heat.
Stir frequently for about 30 seconds. Be careful about the consistency - see that it's not too thick. Store in a glass bottle.
That’s it. Your sexual lubricant is ready!
2. Oil-based homemade lubricant recipe
1/3 cup coconut oil
1 tablespoon bees wax
5 drops of essential oil (Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, Lavender, or any other fragrance that you love)
Use a double boiler to melt the coconut oil and beeswax. Once melted, add the essential oil (Lavender has calming properties, while YlangYlang works as an aphrodisiac, but you can choose any essential oil)
Next, remove from heat and let it cool completely. At this stage, the mixture will be hard. Refrigerate the mixture if it doesn’t harden under room temperature.
Then whip the mixture till it’s light and fluffy and store it in a glass bottle. When you want to apply the lube, rub it between your palms and it will become slippery. This love lotion can also act as a diy massage oil.
Note: If you use fractionated coconut oil, it will remain in liquid form in the fridge.
3. Hybrid lube recipe
1/4 cup aloe vera gel
1/4 cup flaxseed oil
4 drops peppermint essential oil
10 drops sensations essential oil
Mix it and use it as soon as possible.
This is a hybrid lube since the recipe uses a water-based lubricant (aloe vera) combined with a plant-based oil (flaxseed oil). This natural lube also smells good.
Note: Sensations essential oil is a mixture of different oils, such as ylang-ylang, jasmine, coriander, bergamot, and geranium.
4. Condom safe lube recipe
1 cup flax seeds
3 cups filtered water
Add the flax seed to the boiling water and cook for ten minutes, or until the flaxseeds are soft.
Then, drain the water and discard the flaxseeds.
Allow the mixture to cool before use.
Even better? This natural lubricant is condom safe, and you can refrigerate it for up to two weeks.
DIY Lube: Ingredients to Avoid
Many household ingredients may seem like great lube alternatives but are harmful to your vagina and anus health.
Avoid these ingredients at all costs when making your lube.
- Baby oil (or anything with mineral oil) - can increase your chances of getting bacterial vaginosis
- Petroleum jelly (like Vaseline) - not safe with condoms, can cause bacterial vaginosis
- Glycerin - may increase transmission of genital herpes
- Refined oils (vegetable oil) - treated with chemicals, causes a buildup in the vagina, can increase the risk of yeast related infection
- Spit - while this natural lubrication may seem harmless, saliva can spread gonorrhea
- Chocolate, shortening, cream - anything that has sugar or dairy in it as it can cause yeast infections
Note: You may find cocoa butter listed in may store-bought lubricants. This is safe. Cocoa butter used in lubricants is a fat that comes from cocoa beans and is not the same as cooking butter.
What is the Best Natural Lubricant?
A personal lubricant that uses safe, organic and natural ingredients is perfect for enhancing your erotic pleasures.
What’s even better is if the lube has been tested for compatibility with condoms and adult toys, and will not give you infections.
If you want some options for natural personal lubricants that are body-safe, check out The 6 Best Natural Lubricants for 2020.
Note: Body-safe lubes are free of irritants like parabens, glycerin (usually found in flavoured lubes), yeast and isopropyl alcohol.
You could also opt for Coconu personal lubricants.
The brand is available in two varieties - one using coconut water (condom and sex toy compatible), and the other made from a coconut oil base. Both work great as vaginal as well as anal lube.
Coconu natural lubricants are devoid of alcohol, parabens, petroleum oils (like vaseline), gluten, phylates, glycerin, fragrances and dyes. They are hypoallergenic and 100% body-safe.
Go Natural, yet Safe
When pleasure and passion are on your mind, would you want to worry about side-effects or an allergic reaction from your sexual lubricant?
I don’t think so!
While some kitchen essentials can also double-up as a sex lube, it is always better to opt for a store-bought lube. These are tested for safety and made from certified natural and organic ingredients.
With Coconu available online on our store, it was never so easy and convenient to get your hands on a safe and natural personal lubricant.